the hardest part about making a mistake is not the fact that you have to live with yourself.
that can be reconciled.
the worst thing about letting your emotions run away with you is not that you will have betrayed the one person you were supposed to love the most.
hurt fades after a while.
the absolute heartbreak of it all is knowing that he will never look at you the way he did before.
ever.
you will spend the rest of your relationship trying to make up for something that will never be forgiven.
and nothing will be the same.
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Uh-oh. I'm sorry about this, sweetie. I had an "oops" moment myself a few weeks ago ...
Be patient ... it was a hard couple of weeks but I think we're all the stronger for it ...
No, it won't ever be the same.
But, it can be better- eventually.
My "lapse" was huge, yet we got through it, and I am actually glad that it happened, I've actually never regretted it.
We're not perfect, we do things we shouldn't. Sex is so minimal in the big picture. Hopefully the bf will get that-eventually. Sometimes it's good for them to see that you are not just someone to have- you're also someone that can be lost. Good luck with this, I feel your pain.
easy for those who have cheated to say "i'm actually glad it happened. things are so much better now." my bf was dumb enough to say that to me after he cheated. because it "made him realize how much he doesn't want to lose me." what a load of crap. cheating is weak. that's all there is to it. he's lucky i decided to give him another chance. i have not forgotten and still do not fully trust him. is that really worth the little "ah-ha" moment?
p.s.
there is nothing minimal about sex in my book. that's just something cheaters say to make it seem like it's not so bad.
Anon- you're entitled to your opinion, as I am mine. It's easy to get high & mighty when you've been cheated on (and I have- walked in on it actually). Cheating isn't weak- it's usually an indicator of something wrong with the relationship, which- last time I checked- included two parties.
Cheating isn't o.k. I also don't see the point of dwelling on it forever. I refuse to wear the scarlet A. If, as a couple,you don't get past the anger it will never work, period.
you are entitled to your opinion as well, wm, but i too, have cheated. and i still think it's weak. if you don't have the guts or can't to talk about what is wrong then break up before you go screw someone else.
i'm sure there are situations this doesn't apply to of course, there are always exceptions. but for the most part, cheating is weak. period.
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